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"Don't listen to the advice of staying put"

A 22-year-old Kenyan girl who had her fingers chopped off by her husband has warned ladies in abusive marriages to depart.

 

Talking to The Normal from her hospital mattress at Busia County Referral Hospital on Monday, November 22, Janet Auma vowed by no means to remarry. 

 

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“Don’t take heed to the recommendation of staying put and defending your marriage. That’s the mistake I made,” Auma mentioned. 

 

"Don't listen to the advice of staying put"

 

She mentioned she met her Bernard Ouma in 2018. They dated for a few months earlier than they began residing collectively in Kibomet in Kitale.

 

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Earlier than assembly Ouma, she had dropped out of faculty after getting pregnant when she was 17-years-old.

 

She was a Kind Two pupil at Buhuri Secondary Faculty in Butula sub-County. The person accountable for the being pregnant abandoned her.

 

“I used to be seven months pregnant once I dropped out of faculty because of the stigma I confronted,” mentioned Auma.

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She later met Ouma who promised to handle her youngster.

 

“My husband additionally had two youngsters from his earlier marriage. We agreed to be accountable dad and mom,” she says.

 

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"Don't listen to the advice of staying put"

Along with her mom

 

Eighteen months later, she obtained pregnant once more. “Our marriage bumped into headwinds after giving beginning. My husband instructed me that he wouldn’t handle a toddler he didn’t sire.”

 

Auma mentioned she requested her ex-boyfriend to return for his son, however that didn’t go effectively with Ouma, who accused her of infidelity.

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She claims Ouma senselessly beat her for no purpose. “I all the time lived in worry, however fellow ladies would encourage me to remain put, insisting that marriage is filled with challenges.”

 

Her choice to attend a dad and mom’ assembly at a neighborhood college the place her husband’s two youngsters schooled landed her in hassle.

 

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“After I got here again dwelling later within the afternoon, I discovered the tv shuttered. My stepchildren instructed me that my son was accountable,” she mentioned.

 

Ouma locked her and her son in the home and beat them up.

 

“He would elevate the child and drop him on the ground whereas raining blows and kicks on me for not less than one hour. We sustained critical accidents. At midnight, once we had retired to mattress, he instructed me that he would kill me except I substitute the tv display screen.”

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“Within the morning, he gave his youngsters some cash for breakfast and lunch and by no means bothered about us. I instructed my sister what had occurred, and he or she despatched me Sh800 for fare again dwelling,” she says.

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Her mother-in-law later visited her dad and mom and pleaded that she goes again to her matrimonial dwelling, however she declined.

 

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Auma went to Nairobi, the place she labored as an off-the-cuff employee and got here again dwelling in August this yr.

 

She mentioned, when her estranged husband obtained wind of her return, he visited and satisfied her to return to him.

 

“He claimed he had reformed. I agreed to return to him towards the needs of my mom. After one week, the issues began once more,” she mentioned.

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In keeping with Auma, her mom had despatched her garments however contained in the bag, there was a t-shirt that didn’t belong to her.

 

Her husband accused her of accepting items from her secret lovers and threatened to kill her. 

 

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The next morning, Ouma requested the spouse to take her sick son to the hospital and gave out Sh700, which she used as fare again dwelling on October 26.

 

He (Ouma) began sending individuals to persuade Auma to go to her matrimonial dwelling, however she refused.

 

And on October 31, Ouma arrived at her dwelling and attacked her with a Panga earlier than fleeing on a motorcycle.

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“I used to be choosing firewood once I noticed him approaching wielding a panga. His face was lined, however I might establish him simply by his strolling fashion. I stood nonetheless and pleaded with him to not hurt me, however he went forward and chopped off my fingers,” mentioned Auma.

 

“He was focusing on my head, however I used my fingers to guard myself. My left hand was fully chopped off.”

 

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She reported the matter at Butula Police station, however the accused individual stays at massive.

 

Bumala sub-County Police Commander Jacob Chelimo mentioned they’re nonetheless searching for the suspect a month after the incident.

 

The sufferer’s mom, Modesta Auma, is fearful that the suspect might go scot-free.

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“He (suspect) has been noticed in our village throughout night hours, and we’re afraid that he might strike once more.  We would like the police to guard us,” she mentioned.

 

Gentrix Sanda, a Medical Social Employee on the referral facility’s Gender-Primarily based Violence Centre, mentioned Auma must be taken to a secure home, particularly now that the suspect remains to be roaming round.

 

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Busia County Referral hospital nursing in-charge Violet Omoto mentioned Auma is out of hazard however wants specialised care.

 

Auma starred at her fingers with pity. “I attraction to well-wishers to assist me get synthetic fingers and clear Sh50,000 hospital invoice.” she mentioned. 

 

 

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