Yesterday night I continued reflecting on the reasons why people give up.
One of the things that came to my mind was the lack of expectations.
If you don’t set expectations for anything you do, it will be hard to get better results and sustain them for the long term.
Don’t just give yourself easy tasks or assignments to complete. Setting yourself a tough, hard, but reasonable, realistic challenge will give you the additional belief that you can do it even if it takes time and energy, which will eventually strengthen your self-confidence and reinforce your ability to attain goals.
As you may note it, all boils down to setting expectations.
So what are the expectations?
Per my definition, they are beliefs about something that is supposed to happen in the future as far as projects or work you embark on are concerned. If you engage in any business, any endeavor, you expect something to happen at the end. You want to see a result, a trace, an imprint of your actions. It could be low or high. But the higher, the better, because you will put in more effort, focus on meeting them. They are like self-fulfilling predictions. But how can you achieve them if you didn’t set them at the beginning? That is the question.
It is imperative to posit that Expectations are everywhere. In the classroom, students and teachers define it. At the workplace, workers and bosses have it.
During the webinars, online courses, masterminds, trainers, and trainees have it. Writers and readers have them for the books they write or read. In games, players and coaches set them before going to the field. In the house, parents and kids have them. Travellers and owners of means of transportation always consider them. In relationships, friendships, they are there. They are in a marriage; both partners look up to each other for them. If you have been to an interview before, you might have probably been asked to expound on your salary expectations. And many more. I can’t think of a course of life with any expectations. If you thought of one, let me know in the comment box.
Now let’s come back to the order of the day, which is the writing challenge we are about to end.
Go back to the project you embark on. If you didn’t define them at the start, now that you are reading this, what would have been your expectations from the beginning? Stop and Write them down. You will gain a lot if you set them and work hard to achieve them.
Just remember how many times you have been asked to write down your expectations for the training you partook in.
Why do you think the trainer asked to so? Why are they so important?
There are lots of benefits you can rip.
How do we benefit from expectations?
They help you define clearly your goals and do all the needful to achieve them. They keep you accountable for your success or failure. Having them is a clear sign of your mastery over your game. Set expectations that stretch and inspire excellence. They are like development plans you communicate to yourself or others. They are standards you set, agree that should guide you. Have them clear enough and easy, but strongly attainable. These can easily affect your life. See how.
How do expectations affect us?
Abiding by the Laws or Rules of expectations easily influence your reality and creates results. As individuals, setting expectations tend to make better decisions based on how others expect you to perform or deliver. Expectations have a powerful impact on those we trust and respect, but, interestingly, an even greater impact on perfect outsiders.
Outsiders can easily decipher our expectations through our body language, tone of voice, or the type of influence we make on them. In my yesterday post, I talked about people giving up. What came to my mind their lack of expectations for the challenge.
As a teacher, I understand this perfectly because I set up an expectation for my class, my students, and myself as an employee every year. This determines how I carry my lessons, handle my students, and comport myself as a worker. It gives me a sense of urgency and serves as a stepping stone for my career and my life as a whole.
That’s why I always connect with people with higher expectations. Whenever I watch or listen to them, I can understand the type of expectations they place for us. They want us to meet certain standards. And it is a pushup—a clear call to action.
So if you fail to set expectations, don’t expect anything from yourself or anyone.
Before I sign out, please do well to answer the question I asked at the beginning of the article, right after the definition.
Thank you for reading, and see you tomorrow.
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